The Control Book is about the fine art of taking control of your partner. It's about the processes involved, about taking control, using control, about ensuring that you have control, and - importantly - about giving control back once you are done with it. The book discusses how this works - the psychology of it - and looks at what can go right, and at what can go wrong and how to fix it. It considers the role of authority in the equation, and looks at how to manage the control you have over someone so that it is both effective and rewarding for you both. I believe that a very large part of the activities which we include under the umbrella of BDSM rely explicitly or implicitly on control being asserted over one person by another. My goal in this book is to talk about control, explain what it is, demonstrate it, show how to take it, how to give it, how to manage it, and more. I want you, the reader, to be aware of the ebb and flow of control around you and through you.
Amazon lists this title as being available in paperback and Kindle format. I read it on my Kindle.
- How kinky?
Not particularly. Many do consider and define the psychological aspects of BDSM to be kinky, but you aren't going to find anything in here about any kink except the titular.
- How sexy?
Not. Quite dry and academic. Exactly what can be expected from such a volume.
- How informative?
Very. The introduction does say that it's not a book for beginners, but it sure reads that way at times. A lot of the info was very basic. That said, it does have a lot of info that may not be commonly known to even some experienced players, so there is an argument that it is for Controllers of all levels. Subs may not get much out of it, except to suggest it to their Doms. Or perhaps Masters, rather than Doms, as it is very much M/s based as opposed to D/s.
- How engaging?
Fairly. The first chapter (which I will go into later) is slightly ... off-topic, shall we say. After that, the book is quite engaging, and I read it quickly and hungrily to the end.
- How well executed?
Fairly. Again, the first chapter was unnecessary and ill-advised. The remainder of the book is well-considered, relatively thorough (relative to some other texts I've read on the topic), and I think it will be helpful to any who choose to follow it.
- Overall reaction
Sorry, the first chapter really put me off. A lot of theorising and posturing about Jungian psychology and neuroscience. Unnecessary, as I said, and ultimately bad form. If you skip the first chapter the rest is worth an extra point, but since it is included, I had to downgrade my rating. Read this book if you have an interest in exactly how to take control of a sub/slave, how that is achieved, and how to maintain the power exchange. It's exactly the scope of the book, and it does deliver, if you pay attention.
Three cocks from me.
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